Can You Trust Yourself?

So, I’ve been thinking a lot this week about trust.

It’s come up in sessions, it’s come up in conversations, and it’s been floating around in my own mind too.

And not just trust in the usual places - partners, friends, family. But also trust in business: with clients, collaborators, potential customers, with the people we’re trying to serve.

Whether it’s a relationship or a team, a startup or a marriage - trust is the real foundation.

Without trust, nothing sticks. With it, almost anything can grow.

So that got me thinking…

How do we build trust?

And maybe more importantly:

How do we become trustworthy?

We often start by looking outward. But the most important relationship to trust - the one that quietly shapes all the others - is the one you have with yourself.

So, what happens when I ask you, “Can you trust yourself?”

Can you trust your gut when it whispers “this isn’t it”?

Can you trust your body when it says “you’ve done enough for today”?

Can you trust that you’ll be ready when the pressure’s on? For that interview, the presentation, the hard conversation?

Can you trust that you don’t need to rehearse it 34 more times just to feel safe?

And here’s where it gets tricky.

Because when we can’t trust ourselves, do you know what creeps in?

Doubt

And doubt is a slippery little thief.

It’ll snatch your focus, drain your confidence, and whisper worst-case scenarios at 3am.

I see it all the time in my work.

People caught in loops of overthinking, second-guessing, scenario-planning themselves into exhaustion.

Why?

Because somewhere, somehow, they’ve learned they can’t fully rely on themselves to cope, respond, or perform when it matters.

That they need to hold it all - every option, every outcome, every line of the script - in mind, just in case.

Because if they let go… what if they drop the ball?

And, without trust, we can’t let go.

And if we can’t let go, we can’t focus.

And if we can’t focus, we can’t show up fully - not for ourselves, not for anyone else.

So, take a moment this week and ask yourself:

What would change if I trusted myself more?

And if you need some help… know I’m here.

With trust (and just the right amount of doubt),

Matt